state your name / age / occupation
alanna pearl / 22 / jack of all trades
single or taken?
would you consider yourself a relationship kind of girl?
no, this is my first close thing to a relationship haha.
are you excited about it?
umm.. i’m anxious, but i think i’m just an anxious person in general.
what’s your etiquette for first dates?
i feel like i’m very polite so i expect people to be polite as well. i like to be a lady. mens etiquette… i don’t know. i feel like i might sound like a snob to say for them to pay for the date, but every girl likes a gentleman. i just want someone to treat me right you know?
exactly. how do you resolve conflict in your relationship and stay happy?
i think be both find each other entertaining, so that helps. to keep each other happy… we definitely stay busy and see each other when we can. we experiment… cute panties make everything better (giggles).
the motto. what gets you going in bed?
i think i’m a little more submissive. i like it when i get mauled. i like being thrown around, but i also like to take things easy and slow.
the build up is everything. do you believe in true love? marriage? either?
it’s scary to think about. so many people that i know from high school and even people younger than me are getting married and having babies. i like to have hope that i will get married in the future, but i don’t know if i’ll ever officially get married. i don’t know how i feel about the cookie-cutter status. i don’t know if i’ve ever wanted a wedding, they seem exhausting. it’s such a big ordeal. i would just rather it be personal… me and him go run away (giggles). i just want it to be between me and my significant other.
i’ve always wanted to get married in vegas one time. to a stranger. for shits and gigs haha.
i’ve always thought about if i become one of those women with multiple husbands (laughs). i mean not at the same time, but what if i end up with like 7 ex-husbands or something. what if i marry a bunch of times wouldn’t that be funny?
i can almost see it now haha. have you ever faked an orgasm?
no! i like to be honest with that. if i don’t orgasm i’m not going to fake it. you’d be able to read me and it would probably get awkward and they’d be like oh… because they could probably sense that i’d be a little bummed (laughs).
what would your perfect first date look like?
i mean, something definitely authentic. i don’t want anything to be staged or cliché like they got something out of a movie. i’d like it to be something that we both share an interest in. i mean obviously going to dinner is nice. i love being fed food. i would like to go somewhere tropical. current boyfriend and i have been talking about going to a nude beach lately. i would probably wear bottoms, but he would definitely just go full frontal he doesn’t give a fuck.
haha gotta love the confidence. how did you lose the virginity?
oh my god. okay so, in the house i grew up in – it was the first house i ever lived in and i ended up living there with my sister when i was 14 – a block down the street from this house is a park that i have gone to my whole life. my first high school boyfriend and i kind of felt the pressure to have sex. i don’t know if we were even necessarily attracted to each other…
everyone was doing it sort of thing?
not necessarily. i think we both thought it was our time to do it, but i don’t think we were actually in love, or anything like that, at all. we just enjoyed each other’s company.
you did it at the park?
we did it at the park. on my 16th birthday. in one of the little tubes you climb up into.
so cute! i love it. how important is it to you to be open to experimenting sexually?
i mean i’m definitely curious about certain feelings and sensations, especially sexual ones. if my significant other wasn’t into that i would probably feel like a creep for wanting to try things when they’re not down. there’s nothing wrong with wanting to experiment – you have to give it a shot to see if you like it (giggles). so yea, i think it’s important. you have to figure out what you like somehow! i’m definitely getting close to figuring it out.
that’s what i’m saying! gotta mix it up. have you ever asked someone to try something and they rejected it?
no, one of my previous partners though i think picked up that i was just a little weirder than he was and i think that’s why we didn’t work out. it was just kind of vanilla, you know?
haha i’m more of a ben & jerry’s ‘half baked’ kind of girl myself what’s your take on dating in LA? LA vs other places you’ve lived?
oh man. dating in LA is very interesting because it’s hard to find people that are in the same place as you are that have similar wants. because i’ve met people who want the same thing as me, but don’t want the thing until later in life… i’m down for a ride or die obviously, but it’s like they just want to keep looking. they want to have you, but have their eye on other people.
like they’re always on the look in case something better comes along.
yea. i think that’s the worst part about dating in LA. people always have their eye on other people. compared to other other places that i’ve lived it’s a lot better because there’s more people – more people with similar interests and more people that i feel comfortable with right off the bat more so than people i’ve known my whole fucking life that have watched me evolve and change and don’t necessarily feel comfortable with what i’ve evolved into, you know?
closed minded people.
exactly. so i definitely enjoy dating in LA, it’s fun. when you get lucky it’s nice and it’s worth the wait.
what’s the biggest struggle you’ve faced in a relationship?
i think my biggest struggle is my biggest pet peeve in dating in general. the attention span. it’s hard to keep my attention, just like it’s hard for me to keep other people’s attention. i’m constantly working to be a better person and better my career, but yea, my biggest struggle has been finding someone to hold my attention. i think that’s why i do like this relationship right now because i found someone that’s holding my attention (giggles). myself is the biggest struggle.
confidence is a turn on. i enjoy being dominated – getting spanked and choked a little, but nothing that crosses the line where anything physically hurts. i just like it right on the border. i feel like i’m really good at picking up on vibes, too – whether or not someone is being authentic or not. when people aren’t (being authentic) i get turned off and won’t really open up. so authenticity is definitely a turn on. i’ve never really had a certain type, i just like genuine people. turn offs – i mean obviously bad breath, that’s never a good thing. i don’t know i don’t like to focus on the negative parts. bad vibes are turn offs.
do you masturbate?
yes (giggles). i haven’t been as much lately because i’ve had some help. when i’m seeing someone i let them masturbate me.
LOL same. what’s your advice for girls who have never had an orgasm before?
i didn’t have my first orgasm until a while after i started being sexually active. it’s hard because you definitely have to tune things out and get in the moment. i feel like when younger girls start to have sex they feel a lot of pressure to look good or something. not all girls will cum or ejaculate. i think the best thing you can do is just figure yourself out, get to know yourself first. get comfortable with your body and the person you’re doing it with. that always helps. feel around on yourself a little before.
agreed. what’s the craziest sexual experience you’ve ever had?
all i know is that whatever has been my craziest sexual experience is probably about to get topped (giggles). i’m not going to lie. we’re both freaky. it’s tight because he’s proud of it. he’s not ashamed of what he likes. when i was younger i had sex on the side of a mountain once… that was weird. that’s so colorado of me. nothing too wild. on part 2 of the interview i bet i’ll have something crazy (giggles).
thoughts on technology and dating? good or bad? what’s your take?
the fact that someone could just start a relationship long distance over what they see on instagram, it doesn’t make it feel very exclusive, especially when you’ve never met the person before. technology and relationships… it makes things convenient obviously, but it also makes things a little muddier – a little harder to read. but also a little easier to read in-between the lines.
do you like to give head?
yes, but it’s scary when it’s too big. my little hands can’t handle it! but i do enjoy choking on the d.
haha! i love you. how important is communication in a relationship?
i’ve been learning this one still… i used to be very good about communication, now i’m decent at it. i’m still learning. if you don’t tell someone what’s bugging you it’s just going to bug you more. then you’re just going to explode and cause more drama than was ever even there. you might as well just say – in a nice or bitchy way – just get it out.
do you have any final thoughts / last words on love / sex / relationships?
before you get involved with anyone in your life you need to figure yourself out. feel comfortable. have fun. be safe.